As soon as the southwest monsoon flows over the air there was an occurrence of a vague loneliness I cannot explain. The moisture-laden wind carries with it a painful sensation I do not even want to go back to. The climax of the summer heat is almost over and the season was telling me June is coming. I wish I have the power to remove it from the calendar of time because it brings with it the memories of the most unbearable agony of losing my son. And I’m scared.
I’m scared because they say the more it last the more it hurts. It’s almost three years now. And I am not sure if I am done with the grieving process or if I can get through with it. The gradual change of atmosphere clouded my emotions with sorrow and there was a screaming voice inside making me lost in the air. In my desperate search to meet the sunshine along the way here’s what I found out:
1. Reach out
Exposing the imaginary dragons to someone we trust lost its power over us. It allows us to show our authentic self and by doing so we stop wasting our energy to something that will destroy us in the long run. I was so absorb with myself after losing my son until I hear a women sharing how she lost two of her siblings a year after losing her husband. Suddenly my troubles seem like a grain.
2. Shield ourselves and put up defenses
In our weakest moment we may find strength from practical and Godly advice. Sometimes it could be from the people closest to us or from those who inspire us. Today we almost have everything at our disposal where to search for inspirations to fortify us.
3. Strive to be happy
It is our primary duty in life. Happiness is something we work out and it does not come naturally. According to Bertrand Russell on his book The Conquest of Happiness published in 1930, “Happiness is not, except in very rare cases, something that drops into the mouth, like a ripe fruit….Happiness must be, for most men and women, an achievement rather than a gift of the gods, and in this achievement, effort both inward and outward, must play a great part.”
4. Count your blessings
Researchers found out that counting our blessings big or small made our emotions more positive and increase our ability to handle life’s disappointments.