Written by Millionaire’s Digest Team Member: Etch H.
Founder & Owner of: Smart and Funny Talk
Millionaire’s Digest Team, Contributor and Family & Life Writer
It is sometimes hard to explain to a 3 to 4-year-old kid about bullying especially if the conversation goes like this:
Son: Why do you think my friend A hits me and the other kids all the time whenever we play?
I: Did somebody hit your friend A first? Was somebody making fun of him?
Son: No mom… He is always like that, we were just playing then all of a sudden he would hit if he loses a game or if he can’t wait for his turn. If I and the other kids can wait, how come he can’t? I will not play with him anymore.
I: Son, some kids are different. Remember what I told you before? In this world, some people will be nice while some people will not be. It is up to you if you want to be on the nice team and the not nice team… It is your choice. We are always given a choice to be good or not. Oftentimes, when a person is not nice, there is a reason behind it. I am not saying that it’s ok to be not nice. I am making you realize that not all people will be nice to you. Try to ask friend A why he does that then tell him what’s good and not and that if he continues to do what he usually does he will not have friends eventually… If it doesn’t work, tell his parents that friend A keeps on hitting you and the other kids and if it still doesnt work I will talk to the kid and his parents.
Son: That sounds complicated but it might work… Thank you.
Article Credits: Etch H.
Millionaire’s Digest Team, Contributor
When I was young, I was bullied some for frivolous things, then into adulthood in subtle ways. One things I learned over the years, was to stick up for myself when being bullied even if that actually got me into trouble. I had the opportunity to defend two people from literal physical altercation, from bullies, yet I was the one who got in semi-trouble because the adults around were as dumb as a nail and actually PROTECTED the bully because of “who” the bullies parents were. Thankfully, I was raised to measure out which situations were worth fighting for, and those two were. Physical altercation isn’t bad when you’re defending someone, so we must train our children that being strong is a positive thing, yet being a bully is a negative thing. Most situations aren’t worth it, but when it comes to defending someone who can’t defend themselves, that’s our duty to stand up for what is right. Most things aren’t a white and black paint situation, there are grey areas in life. We shouldn’t write off that all fighting is bad, because that’s how the enemies run us or our children over. They don’t listen to laws, that’s why their outlaws. I agree with the first comment though about babies who hit, that stuff must be stopped because they must learn how to control their emotions. Self control is key. 💙
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thank u for ur wonderful insight…
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Bullies often don’t need more of a trigger than the realization that they are stronger or have more power than someone else. And, unfortunately, bullies are often very popular in school because if you’re not on their “friend list,” you’re on their target list.
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thats true…
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no one should have to deal with bullying its not healthy
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agree
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yeah
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arent u having an exam right now?
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i didnt have any yesterday but i have one this afternoon and then one tomorrow morning and one on friday morning
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goodluck..
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thanks
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ei, did u check ur stats yesterday? u had 57 views…thats awesome…
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yeah i noticed its one of the best days so far
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hope it will continue…
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that day was your day i think because people on this blog are starting to accept you in as an editor
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how about we say, its a team effort…☺
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ok mate did you see the post i put up earlier
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i did…i just dont know what to comment…its so tragic and sad…. will be posting something tom…busy with games for my son lately…
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thats fine mate
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dont stress yourself
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my exam starts at 1:45pm i believe
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ok..good luck…i dont know what time is that in north america part…im poor with time zone…anyway…focus on ur exam…dont be distracted with blogging
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ok mate
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i never expected this blog to do so well
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its mental how much bullying affects people
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right…
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yeah
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great job mate
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Reblogged this on PBUH prophets mercy and guidance.
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Bullying has no age limit really so it can start at any age. Some kids have a tendency to act like that and some mimic such kids. Helping then look for triggers is a great idea!
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Nice!!
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“In this world, some people will be nice while some people will not be.” -> The best thing to tell to him/her.
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i think its better they realize as early as now that not all people will be nice to them….
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I’m a kindergarten teacher, hitting starts from babies because they usually act from example (seeing others do it). It could be interesting to know if this kids’ Teacher’s have him observed bullying.
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Great advice, but I think you should share with your son that people act out of emotions, they cant seem to grasp. Help him look for triggers that can educate him on leaving a time-ticking situation.
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thanks for sharing that advice…i never thought about that…
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