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Making Peace with Death

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A sense of powerlessness over death wraps my whole being right after my brothers’ burial.  I felt vulnerable wrestling with something nobody will ever win. The thought of death immobilizes me for the first time after several losses of people I love the most.

The nights that followed was filled with dreams about death and dying that it bothers me at times. I prayed hard in trying to figure out the meaning of it all and a deep feeling of fear about losing someone emerges. The threat of a deep loneliness over losing a loved one again was stronger than the fear of death itself.

Memories came crashing one by one with every loss I encountered since childhood. It starts with the death of   my grandfather who made me feel I was his favorite. A few years after that, I went to a more profound sorrow losing my Dad.   My mom’s leaving to sickness many years later does not create the same impact I had over the losses during childhood even those of my grandmas. The most devastating of it all is that of losing my son three years ago.

The strong resistance of going back to those unbearable feelings gave light why tears won’t come during my brother’s wake. I created an automatic shut off from deep within because I am not sure if I was capable of going through the same feeling again.  I shielded myself with numbness and rage.

Then I realized it was not death but the feelings of being left by someone I loved that scared me the most. This was the strongest sensation embedded on my being that I would not want to go through again. This is what I am so afraid of that I could not make peace with.

There was a voice within me saying that my loved ones do not really leave. They just go to the next dimension where there is a loving God who connects everything. This is the beauty of my faith; life never ends here. There is life before, there is life now and there is life in the hereafter.

Accepting that death is a part of life just like birth is liberating. The knowledge that a loved one who dies does not leave at all dissolves the feelings of hopelessness and disconnections. Death is a great teacher of life. It teaches us to live every day to the fullest as if it is our last and if it is, there is an assurance that the next life is far more exciting than what we have here today. It was a promise we can claim if we believe in God.

Tokhang on Our Doorstep

Putang ina! Putang ina talaga!!!I am so sorry for the inappropriateness, brothers, and sisters. But those were the words I repeatedly utter after finding out that Kim was shot dead after picking up two of his friends  detained in the  police station. Continue reading Tokhang on Our Doorstep

10 Tips to Get You Started Writing this Month (2 min read)

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As the Ernest Hemingway quote goes, “There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.” The quote illuminates a truth for writers everywhere: Writing a novel is much easier said than done.

That fact is one of the reasons why the founder of National Novel Writing Month launched the NaNoWriMo community in 1999. That led to the month of November being known as NaNoWriMo, which encourages writers to bear down and get serious about writing their next novel.

From November 1 through 11:59 p.m. Nov. 30, participating writers are tasked with penning a 50,000-word novel. If they finish early they are encouraged to keep writing. One of the main points of NaNoWriMo is to set writing goals and reach them, as opposed to shooting for a Pulitzer-winning novel (although aiming to write the book of a generation is an admirable endeavor).

  1. First, sign up for NaNoWriMo and create your profile. You will be able to receive help from esteemed authors and connect with fellow writers. Committing to the program will hold you accountable for your writing.
  2. Decide how you want to plan your novel. Yes, there’s even a step before the big steps. The NaNoWriMo website’s places writers into two categories: a “planner” and a “pantser.” The first believes in solid preparation and will likely have their stories fleshed out before Nov. 1. That means if you’re your reading up on these tips, you’re probably in the latter group of those who let their spontaneity take the reins. The latter also prefers to dive right in and see what unfolds along the way.
  3. Prep your novel! If you don’t have somewhat of a story idea already, it’s time to get going. The NaNo website has published videos and tips on how to properly plan for your story for the month ahead.
  4. Check out the literature the site also publishes on tips for character building, fiction writing, story building and more. Plan ahead, but don’t let the planning process keep you from this next step…
  5. WRITE. There’s no avoiding it. The best thing to do is just write.
  6. Once you’ve started, plan your pace for the month and commit to completing a certain amount of words every day. The goal is to write 50,000 words, so the word count is a tangible goal that needs to be met.
  7. Try to write at the same time every day. This doesn’t necessarily work for everyone, but by committing to the same time, you’ll be less likely to push aside the time for socializing or doing chores. Some people prefer writing first thing in the morning, while others prefer the late-night grind. Find your “time” and stick to it.
  8. Reach out to others. The community through NaNoWriMo is meant to help you get the resources and support you need to complete your story. Contrary to popular belief, writing does not just have to be a solitary experience that you share with you and yourself in a cold, damp garret – your writing is meant to be shared. So seek out friends, family members, fellow writers or mentors who might offer you feedback on your writing or even just moral support.
  9. Don’t give up! This might not be the most original tip, but it’s impossible to keep going if you don’t believe in yourself or your story. Keep at it, and keep at it some more. Some days the words will fly, while other days will feel tedious and awful (remember the part about the proverbial “bleeding” – grab those Band-Aids and get back to work).
  10. Have fun. You’re writing a novel, not fighting a war. Have fun and enjoy the process. Nothing beats the beauty of when the human mind and imagination coming together to create something completely original and unique.

So… What are you waiting for? Click here to get started!

I Need to Be Me (1 min read)

Written by Millionaire’s Digest Staff Member and Author: Franci Hoffman

Founder & Owner of BrewNSpew

-Millionaire’s Digest Contributor, Inspirational & Motivational Writer

With darkness looming in my mind, my thoughts are spineless bits of shredded time. Such confusion and sadness doesn’t become me. Surely, these feelings can not overcome me. A long life behind me, but never so bleak. A long life ahead of me, happiness, I shall seek.

Let the light from day spill into night; a slivered sun ray please come my way.

As the day begins to darken, is there a message I should harken? I must be cautious of my perspective; take a stand not to be reflective, and resign myself from my mind. My glass half full, my glass half empty, darkness cannot tempt me.

Let the light from night spill into day; a silvered moonbeam please come my way.

Again, sensing doom I am swallowed by gloom. I can only cry and with no reason to try. I must be bold, I am told! It is not wrong to be strong. I must bring light into my sights; making wrongs into rights.

Let the light from the day spill into night; let the light from night spill into the day.

You may laugh, but I will settle for half. The peacefulness of dusk or the loveliness of dawn; neither night nor day. Perhaps a little gray?  At last, we have met halfway, at least for today.

Whether a slivered sun ray or a silvered moon beam; please come my way and make my day.  Please let it be, I need to be me.

Cheers!

Written by Millionaire’s Digest Staff Member and Author: Franci Hoffman

Founder & Owner of BrewNSpew

-Millionaire’s Digest Contributor, Inspirational & Motivational Writer

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God’s Blessings Delivered via Trouble

 

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I can imagine Mary’s bewilderment when the angel greeted her with a promise of God’s blessing announcing that she was chosen to give birth to Jesus the son of God. How could that be a blessing if during her time getting pregnant without a father would mean being stone to death? She could probably be thinking “Hey angel, are you crazy? I’m a virgin.”  But with all her humility she allowed God’s plan to happen despite the trouble it may cause her. Continue reading God’s Blessings Delivered via Trouble

The Elephants We’re Afraid to Know

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“Don’t sleep and Etron will come in and get you all” that’s how Mom used to scared us when she would like us to have our afternoon nap.  Etron was a bum on the street. He lives in the neighborhood with small nipa house alone. I heard he was a little crazy and nobody knows his relatives and where he came from. That was the only impression I have of him. Continue reading The Elephants We’re Afraid to Know

5 Steps to Get in Formation as a Female Chef! (2 min read)

Written by Millionaire’s Digest Team Member: Sybil Mahlangu

Founder & Owner of: Sybilfem

Millionaire’s Digest Team, Contributor, Food & Drink and Writing Writer


You’re thinking about getting into the culinary industry but you’re not entirely sure you’ll be able to cope once you’re in there? Here are a few ideas on how to go about it. Continue reading 5 Steps to Get in Formation as a Female Chef! (2 min read)

Embracing Failure: Start Doing the Unthinkable (3 min read)

Written by Millionaire’s Digest Staff Member: Precious Kc George

Founder & Owner of: Think Digest

Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Author, Successful Living Writer


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Some of the best lessons we ever learn are learned from past mistakes. The error of the past is the wisdom and success of the future.
–Dale E. Turner

I’ve always heard people say that “public speaking” is one of the most common fear people face, and at such, they fear to fail at doing it. I was a victim of this. I couldn’t come out to speak in public and even as a student, it was hard to stand in front of people to even say fifteen-worded sentence. I felt like all the people that do speak publicly, had an amazing and out-of-the-world talent.

Continue reading Embracing Failure: Start Doing the Unthinkable (3 min read)

7 Wise Words that Will Encourage You Today

Written by: Sheila Cierpikowska


1. Never give up. Nobody remembers that fella who gave up!

2. You are stronger than your pain. Pain sucks. Pain is inevitable. Tell you what, the most humble, inspirational and greatest of all people came from hurt, shame, despair,homelessness, bankruptcy and you know how the story ends. Continue reading 7 Wise Words that Will Encourage You Today